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50 The best way to go about this is to accept that the relationship you and your spouse have will be different than the one you've both grown used to. Most suggest that you take the time to grieve what you and your spouse have lost but be ready to change the playbook and redefine your marriage. They Might Say Things They Don't Mean When you are caring for your spouse and as the disease progresses, you might find yourself on the receiving end of hurtful rhetoric. It's important to remember that this comes from the disease they are battling and not from any real spite. You can help yourself and your spouse by trying to bring laughter into your lives. Joking around and keeping each other in light spirits is a good way to battle the angry mood swings they might demonstrate. In addition, it will help you to remember that your spouse still has a bright, loving core through the disease. Don't Try to Go It Alone Just as it's important that you are there for your spouse, you need people there for you. This is a hard time for both of you and it can go a long way to be able to talk things through with someone else. What Can You Do for Your Spouse? As the diagnosis sinks in, you probably are trying to figure out how you can help your spouse deal with the disease they are now battling. Aside from what we've looked at so far, there are some things you can incorporate into your life. Comfort Them Not being able to remember facts such as where you are or who you're with can be frightening. As such, it isn't unlikely that your spouse is feeling scared or anxious as well as confused. When you are working with them, remain calm and comforting to help them stay as at ease as possible. Don't Be Afraid to Consult the Professionals Many spouses try to handle their partner's symptoms on their own. After all, you love them and want to do what's best for them. 24/7 care, though, can be difficult and often impossible. It's also not a bad idea to recognize when you need to recruit help from a professional caregiver. It isn't uncommon or bad to call in a caregiver even part- time to help your spouse if you have regular responsibilities that would pull you away from your spouse. It's also not cruel of you to recognize when you need a few hours to take care of your own needs. continued from page 49